Single on Valentine’s Day – Show Yourself Some Love

I don’t know about you but at times, like around Valentine’s Day, I feel like a pariah. I’m single with no children and not interested in changing the status quo on either issue despite being carpet bombed with hints by my mother. Seriously mom, I’m fully aware that I’m not getting any younger but I don’t think my ovaries are going to shrivel into raisins at the stroke of midnight on my 40^th birthday.

Anyway, when you live in a society that is obsessed with coupling and making babies, life can certainly make you feel like a loser if you happen to be single on Valentine’s Day. I don’t know how many times I’ve had some form of the following conversation with attached women:

Random Busybody: Valentine’s Day is coming up.

Me: Yeah, it is. Are you working?

Random Busybody: No, me and my (boyfriend, husband, booty call) are going to blah, blah, blah… (a fifteen minute detailed play by play of their Valentine’s Day plans). So what are you doing?

Me: Oh, I don’t know. Probably hang out at home, watch a movie or something.

Random Busybody: Aw that sucks your boyfriend has to work on Valentine’s Day.

Me: I don’t have anyone in my life right now.

At this point one of two things will happen. There is either an awkward silence during which they will give me a look of pity and change the subject or the person will say something incredibly stupid and demeaning. You can probably guess which one happens to me most often.

The worst response I ever got was someone tried to set me up on a mercy date for Valentine’s Day. I’m not lying. She was like, “My boyfriend’s brother is not doing anything for Valentine’s Day either ‘cause he just broke up with his girlfriend. You two should totally hookup.” Um, hell no.

The worst thing someone has ever said to me when I told them I didn’t have a significant other was, “Well, maybe if you weren’t so bitchy all of the time.” I wanted to throw my coffee in her face. And for the record, I was only bitchy with her all the time and for good reason.

Despite what life, society, and tactless coworkers may say, being single on Valentine’s Day is not a bad thing. In fact, it can be very empowering if you let it. Valentine’s Day is all about showing others how much you care for them no matter what your relationship status is with them. It is also the perfect day to show yourself some love.

Instead of worrying about why you are still single, or what made your last relationship fail, or trying to dodge the cross-eyed looks people give you when you tell them you are not attached, use Valentine’s Day to appreciate yourself and what you do have in your life. I know for a fact that when you show gratitude for what you already have, then whatever you feel is missing (such as a mate) becomes immaterial.

So without further ado, here are a few things you can do on Valentine’s Day if you are single:

Things to do for Valentine’s Day for Your Self

* Get together with your other single friends for a single’s night out. Rent party space at a romantic restaurant, glam it up, and party like its New Year’s Eve.

* Treat yourself to a spa weekend at a ritzy resort. Pamper yourself with a facial, manicure/pedicure, massage, chocolates on your pillow, and anything else you can think of.

* Get a bottle of wine, make yourself a beautiful dinner (Italian is awesome), and watch corny movies that make you laugh. Invite a single friend over to share in the fun.

* Enroll in a belly dance class. Although belly dance is associated with sex and sensuality, it is also stress reliever, teaches you how to control your body, and is fun as hell.

* Buy yourself a new vibrator. Seriously, masturbation is healthy, feels good, and you don’t have to worry about getting pregnant or catching a disease. (Read erotic stories to get yourself in the mood.)

Thing to do for Valentine’s Day for Other People

* Buy Valentine’s gifts for the people in your life to show how much you love them as their friend or family member.

* Write love notes to the people you love telling them how much you enjoy having them in your life.

* Perform random acts of kindness. If you see someone struggling with their bags, ask if they need help and other things like that.

* Offer to babysit for your attached friends who may be looking to get a little alone time together. Parents of young children often struggle to get five minutes to take a shower. They will love you forever if you take the younguns for the night so they can have time to remember why they chose to be together.

* Volunteer in a nursing home or assisted living facility. A lot of elderly folks have lost their husbands and wives and may not have family members who visit them. Show them a little love by bringing treats and talking to them.

Being single on Valentine’s Day is really no big deal. Even though it is mostly associated with romantic love, it is really a holiday to show everyone in your life how much you love and appreciate them. And that includes yourself. Ignore what anyone may have to say about your single status and have some fun this Valentine’s Day doing your own thing.

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